Getting Real
30 November 1999
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Getting Real
I mentioned during an interview a while back that I hadn't had a cold or a bout with the flu in many years. Afterwards I got many inquiries from people who wanted to know my "secret." While I'm happy to share what I do that helps keep me healthy, I also feel a little nervous about speaking about it publicly. One of my fears is that about the time I publish my strategy I'll catch some bug that's been floating around and have to issue an "Oops" retraction. My other fear is that someone will take my experience as gospel truth instead of simply one person's experiment in self-healing. So, let me make it clear from the outset that nothing that follows should be regarded as medical advice or as any substitute for you taking complete responsibility for your wellbeing. All that said, here's what I do that's helped me go from several episodes of colds or flu a year to a health-streak of 9 years without either a cold or flu.
We hear so much about forgiveness, in our churches, on Oprah, in new age magazines, but do we truly understand what the big deal about forgiveness is? We read that if we forgive others and ourselves we are doing our spiritual work and becoming better people, but what does that mean to us? You can forgive that guy you dated a while back until you run into him someplace and then you want to wreak revenge on him. You can forgive your parents for your horrible childhood but as soon as you get on the phone with your Dad you are arguing just like you always have. So, what good is forgiveness anyway?
I?m writing to tell you about a wonderful new coaching tool that is being released today. It?s called Get Unstuck & Get Going ?on the stuff that matters by Michael Bungay Stanier, and I?ve seen nothing like it before. It?s practical, it?s beautiful, and it?s a tool that you can use again and again. It doesn?t provide ?the answer? ? but it does provide a method that you can use to find your own answers.
Recently I began to consider how I often think of God in the
same way I used to think about Santa Claus.
Why do husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, lie to each other? 
As of this writing two
years have come and gone since September 11, many funerals have been attended,
wakes given and tears cried. A slew of
books have been written about it with other books written in association with
the event, along with countless articles in newspapers, magazines and journals.
Various TV documentaries have been done with special awards given to their creators
while radio and TV talk shows have discussed, argued and analyzed the happening
from the psychological roots to the social and political. 
How can you know a relationship is right for you? This is one of the biggest questions we all have to answer for ourselves, and questions are one of the best ways to find out.
When you're first going out with someone, don't hesïtate to ask
the important questions. Of course, you need to be willing to tell the
other person how you feel about the issues 